What are your personal fetishes?
I think there are too many to list. Of course, bad boys/girls need to be punished so as you can imagine I have quite the tool box full of implements to keep them in line. I thoroughly enjoy foot worship and servitute are both amazing when I can find a doting sub. However, I do like my sessions to have a bit of role play. Whether or not I’m being a nurse doing needle play or a babysitter force feeding my naughty little, it all really excites me.
Are you friends with any of your clients?
Of course. Ideally, I would be friends with all my clients. I am there to open them up to the most sensitive and vulnerable part of themselves—there’s a lot of trust and emotional closeness that is built. Because BDSM play has such an emotional trigger I often encourage my clients to communicate openly and honestly about thoughts and feelings. However, I discourage in depth personal questions about myself to establish appropriate boundaries.
Do you ever get unusual requests?
Uh duh, that’s kind of the name of the game here. Cock and ball torture, age play, bondage, needle play, water and hard sport requests – although it’s all different from person to person it all has its own place in our sessions to create the level of sub-space I’m looking for. I usually find a lot of excitement when I can work with my sub to push themselves to really opening up.
Any etiquette tips for new clients?
Be honest and open. Communication is key to building trust with your Mistress. I guess the pre-session etiquette is one I have to address because it’s the most common, for example, don’t text or email a thousand times asking, ‘what are you going to do to me’ because that’s what sexting is for and no Domme has time for that. Another thing we don’t have time for is those who waste our time! It’s not uncommon to get “verification requests”, coffee date meetup queries, or endless back and forth messaging and the like – to see if they can get the attention they need for free. If you want it, book it! I have no problem letting someone know I’m real, but don’t test my patience. I post my kinky schedule for this reason. Knowing events and munches I’m attending is always a great way to meet in a public setting.
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